Fighting with A Teen-ager in the Age of Mass Shootings

I wrote some words this week and ended up mailing them to politicians. I’m posting them here, too:

It’s Monday morning and my daughter just huffed off to school like she was looking to star in a remake of The Excorcist. She hissed something at me, followed by an icy good-bye and a door-slam. It’s the typical, beginning-of-the-week stuff that happens when teen-agers are forced to wake at 6:30 a.m. Her jeans from last year didn’t fit anymore, which seemed to be my fault. She couldn’t find her library book, which was my fault, too. She didn’t get enough sleep, the oatmeal was runny, she was mad, she was tired, she was late.

In my head, for the rest of the morning, all I can hear is the slam of that door. If we lived in different times, maybe I’d hear something else: The chirping of birds or the cats fighting in the bedroom because apparently they have a hard time with Monday mornings, too.

But we  live in these times. Kids go to school and they don’t come home. And even before I was a mom, I was an obsessive worrier. So I think: What if someone walks into school with a gun? What if the last words I hear from my daughter are boiled in anger, punctuated by that door slam?  

I fight back the urge to chase her to school in my pajamas. Embarrassing her in front of her friends would be my fault, too, of course. Yet if something really does happen, as it did in two more schools this week, I won’t forgive myself.

I think about that Brady Bunch episode — the one where Mike teaches us you should never go to bed angry. That’s always been a rule in our house. We never made a rule about Monday mornings.

Late-morning, I get a text. “I’m sorry.”

I text back. “I love you.”

I count the hours until school is over, and we can replace written words with real ones.

While I’m counting, I write down these words. I’m not sure where to send them; nobody seems to listen anymore. We’re all so full of words, on both sides, and we blow them away like dandelion fluff. Nothing grows. Not a conversation. Not a fuzzy, yellow flower. Not a change.

I know there are people out there trying to do something about gun violence and anger in our country. Maybe you’re one of them. You should be. I should be.

Because the shootings haven’t slowed or stopped. They have left behind dead and survivors and families and friends and responders and strangers who are drowning in grief. They have woven their way into the denim fabric of our society: We can no longer have simple arguments with our teenagers without hearing a gun blast in a door slam.

We have to fix this thing. We have to.

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Genre Jumper: Pamela Ehrenberg

Pamela+EhrenbergThe first book I read by Pamela Ehrenberg was Ethan, Suspended, a novel about Ethan Oppenheimer, who is shipped off to his grandparents in Washington, D.C. while his parents are busy not getting along at home. Her Tillmon County Fire, told in multiple points of view, features stories linked by one incident. These are books that could be read with children, sure, but not the sorts of books that are read to kids while they’re sitting on your lap. So when I heard Pam was publishing a board book about parsley for PJ Library, I knew she had earned a spot on the genre-jumping team (not yet an Olympic Sport). She was kind enough to answer my questions, starting with one for which I already knew the answer.
Me: Which came first: Chicken or egg, picture book or novel?
 
Ethan Suspended coverPamela: Novel, definitely. Picture books used to scare me, the idea of not having any “wiggle room” since every single word has to count for so much. But in 2013 I decided to conquer my fear, and I signed up for the 12 x 12 online picture book challenge. It was so energizing to delve into something where I considered myself a beginner, where I could feel free just to play without pressure to be good at it.
Me: What was the first thing you ever published. (And yes, grade-school newspapers count.)
Pamela: Hmm—can I count my first public reading? My kindergarten class had illustrated stories and dictated the words to classroom volunteers, and then we shared them out loud.  Mine was something about a large group of people living in a house with a witch, and when I got to the end, a boy in my class shouted, “Because the witch ate everyone!” 
Which wasn’t my intention at all! But that boy’s intense reaction, and my dismay at his misunderstanding–was the first time I realized that my job as a writer only half involves putting words on a page: what really matters is what those words do after they’re in the reader’s mind.
I think the experience of having my books reviewed is a lot like reading that story to my kindergarten class—holding my breath to see if I told the story I meant to tell!
Me: When did you publish something in a different form?
 
Parsley coverPamela: I’m delighted that my first board book, Planting Parsley, is coming out this fall from PJ Publishing! Constanze von Kitzing did a great job with the illustrations—I love that there’s this whole other dimension to the process when working with an illustrator. And I loved when the publisher mentioned that the book passed its safety test—it’s new for me writing for an audience who might still be inspired to chew (literally!) on their literature!
Me: Are you a one-project-at-a-time writer or do you mix it up? How easy is it for you to go back and forth between forms?
 
Pamela: I’m definitely a mixed up—I mean mix-it-up—writer. Life as a single mom means writing during odd blocks of time, so I need to have a project at the ready when there’s an unexpected half-hour during baseball practice or an unexpected afternoon during a visit with grandparents. As for going back and forth between forms—I feel like it’s more about going back and forth between characters and their worlds, that the form doesn’t matter as much. It’s like having lunch with one friend in one setting, and dinner with a different friend somewhere else.
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Me: Are there places or themes you tend to explore, both in your writing for younger readers and writing for older ones?
 
My Twitter handle (@PamelaEhrenberg) says that my books are for “young people and others ready to take on the world”—so I think my characters who are two and those who are sixteen, and those in between, are grappling with some of the same issues I am: navigating a diverse world, interacting with the environment, and rising to meet challenges in regard to our personal relationships and our faith. There’s one topic I’m currently exploring in two separate works in progress, a YA novel and a Seussian picture book, and that has to do with a racially insensitive name of a sports team. I’d love to see either of those manuscripts get published in time to help the DC football team owner come to his senses on this one!
 
Me:What age group do you prefer?
 
Pamela: As a parent, I find it gets better and better: as my kids get older, I get a better view of the people they’re becoming. I love that my 6-year-old knows more than I do about most of the animals at the zoo, and I love being a test audience for my 10-year-old’s social justice platforms. (She is currently working on a campaign to advocate for a Muslim-American American Girl doll.)
As a writer, I think a lot about the Jamie Lee Curtis picture book When I Was Little. The main character is turning 4, but she explains how her 3-year-old self, 2-year-old-self, etc., etc., continue to exist inside her. I’m very much still the 11-year-old not sure where to sit in the cafeteria, the 4-year-old picking brown spots off my Fritos at snacktime, and the 16-year-old in the safe-but-daring synagogue youth group dance. It’s nice visiting with all of these selves when I write . . . and also nice knowing I don’t need to be any of them all the time!
Me: What has writing in one form taught you about writing in another?
 
Pamela: Writing novels taught me how to really get inside a character’s head: how even if the main character of a board book is a toddler planting a parsley seed, I have to step into their (Velcro) shoes and see the world from their eyes, including the excitement of dirt and the inevitability of messes when you’re two. Writing novels also taught me about “getting it right”—painting the details of a character’s world with enough accuracy that readers can suspend their disbelief enough to step into the world of fiction. Planting Parsley required two conversations with an observant Jewish botanist to make sure that this 200-word board book got it right in terms of the plant’s growing cycle in relation to the Jewish calendar.
Me: Is there a genre you’d like to tackle that you haven’t tackled yet?
 
Pamela: So I’ve done a middle-grade and a YA novel, now a board book—and my first big-kid picture book is tentatively scheduled for fall 2017. Sometimes I think it might be fun to write for grownups someday, but I’m having so much fun with projects for young readers that I’m not in a hurry. In the meantime, I’d like to find a publisher for my chapter book series someday: I remember when my daughter started reading independently, thinking that there was a lot of room for growth in making things available for newly independent readers who feel like they’re too old for picture books (even though they really aren’t).
Thanks, Pam! You can find out more about Pam at her web site, or be following @PamelaEhrenberg on Twitter. Planting Parsley will be released to PJ Library kids just in time for Tu B’shevat. Pam also has a new book called QUEEN OF THE HANUKKAH DOSAS coming out in 2017 with FS&G. “Somehow, the book combines an incident from my childhood in the 1970s with a #WeNeedDiverseBooks lens toward contemporary, multicultural Judaism,” Pam says.
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Rainy Days

It’s raining and the weather forecast is calling for more. In a few days I will feel trapped in my house, longing to see something brighter than my daughter’s yellow umbrella.  In a few days — or heck, who am I kidding? a few hours — I will be checking the basement for water and searching for the wet vac and trying to stop the kids from yelling at each other over who ate the last pumpkin bar. I will be urging everyone to help me clean the sun room, which everyone will rebel against based on the fact that there isn’t any sun. I will be reading news reports about flooding and falling trees and hurricanes.

But for now, at the beginning of the storm, I am loving the thrum of the rain on my roof, the cat yawning in my lap, the smell of chicken and dumplings bubbling in the crock pot.

For now I am loving that the rain is giving my family an excuse to stop. To read. To be as lazy as this gray day will allow.

We’re not rushing off to afternoon soccer practice. This weekend’s games will likely be cancelled, too, so for a moment, I imagine putting something different on our schedule — something new and out of the routine. Maybe I will. Or maybe I’ll find some old movies, black and white to match the sky. Maybe I’ll just stay here with the cat, listen to the thrum, and write.

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News and Updates

Hi, all.

Nanny X Returns is officially out today. It’s available online or you can order through a bookstore near you. I hope you will!

Meanwhile, Nanny X has been put on the reading list for the Land of Enchantment Book Award. I’m happy to know Nanny X and the gang are hanging out with school kids in New Mexico. If any librarians in that fair state are reading the books with their kiddos and would like to do a Skype visit, please contact me. I have never been to New Mexico and would love to go, at least virtually!

I’ve updated some of my events on the event page and am still adding more.

One of my recent events included moderating a panel at One More Page, where I got to spend time with area illustrator-authors who have serious talent. (I’ve decided to call them illustrator-authors because all of them came by art and illustration first.) My own books wouldn’t exist without illustrators who can breathe color and oxygen into my words, so I was grateful for the chance to talk to these folks.

The panel included Gareth Hinds, best known for his series of graphic-novel adaptations of the classics, Theodore Taylor III, who illustrated When the Beat was Born: DJ Kool Herc and the Creation of Hip Hop, along with the Little Shaq series, Kate Samworth, whose Aviary Wonders I have stared at for longer than I can say, and Rashin Kheiriyeh, whose bright folktales are new to the U.S., though she’s been publishing internationally for some time.

Here’s a photo, snapped by OMP’s lovely owner, Eileen McGervey:

L to R: Me, Kate, Gareth, Rashin, Theodore3

L to R: Me, Kate, Gareth, Rashin, Theodore3 Photo/Eileen McGervey

The other event I did recently was the Super Readers luncheon at DC Public Libraries. This is where young readers who have completed a certain number of books during the summer are placed in a drawing to win lunch with me and a bunch of other DC-area authors. Which I guess makes us Trophy Authors.  Our group included Theodre again, along with Shadra Strickland (who drew portraits of each Super Reader), Fred Bowen, Mary Quattlebaum, Wendy Shang, Hena Khan and me.

And here’s a photo taken by Librarian Theresa Wang:

DC-area authors & illustrators, l to r: Theodore3, Shadra, Fred, Mary, Wendy, Hena, Me.  Photo/Theresa Wang

DC-area authors & illustrators, l to r: Theodore3, Shadra, Fred, Mary, Wendy, Hena, Me. Photo/Theresa Wang

In other news, I have chicken and dumplings cooking in the crockpot, it’s pouring rain outside, and I’m feeling inspired, so look for another post soon!

XO

Madelyn

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Mother-in-law of the Year

It’s not every mother-in-law who would borrow a leather jacket and go walking down the street in bunny slippers in August. Just sayin’….

My son, director, dolly, cameraman and key grip.

My son, director, dolly, cameraman and key grip.

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Grandma S is ready to go!

Grandma S is ready to go!

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